Isrespectful and inappropriateBut all this aside the best thing about this book is the effort Thordis went through to make Tom see what e did was wrong and why Male privilege and sense of entitlement are a toxic pairing He could Nell'orto. Ediz. a colori have easily gone throughis life not giving a second thought to what Its Not About Her Second Glances head done as being wrong in any way But she was not going to remain silent on it any and that took a lot of strength and courage Date rape and being violated by someone you cared for is insidious Thordis and Tom s story is an important one I just wish it
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between 3 and 4 stars It is ard to rate a book like3 and 4 stars It is ard to rate a book like one What is this about South of Forgiveness is well about forgiveness Thordis Elva was raped by Sieben Jahre in Tibet her then boyfriend Tom Stranger when she was 16 This book chronicles their meeting in Cape Town South Africa and their attempt to find their peace and their forgivenessWhat else is this about Rape culture about date rape about the effects of it and the struggle to get past it Thordis is brutallyonest in Operaatio Para Bellum her accounts of what Tom did andow it changed Horse a Portrait A Photographer's Life With Horses her Andere s what I ne This was a Aircraft of World War I 1914 1918 The Essential Aircraft Identification Guide hard book for me to read Lets beonest people don t like to talk about rape and the rape culture that we live in today I feel like Thordis and Tom did an amazing job at telling their story it was raw real Myth Taken Identity honest and even spiritual It was actuallyealing for me I wish this book would be reuired reading in our Jr High schools we need to educate our boys on what rape is and what the conseuences are for both people involved in this Amazon.com: The Underwater Photographer eBook: Martin Edge: Kindle Store horrendous act I think this book opens a space toave real conversations about rape and educates us on its effects both as a victim and a perpetrator and even Growing Marijuana (Idiot's Guides) how those roles can reverse I love Thordis words It s about time that we stop treating sexual violence as a women s issue My ViewAn account of real life experience a memoir of sorts isard to review where do you start How do you give a star rati How do you go from The Jane Austen Project hatred for someone else as well as for yourself to forgiveness and even some kind of friendship This is a well written moving story It teaches so much About rape its conseuences and its context about guilt and mostly it reminded meow strong Dynamite Doc or Christmas Dad? humans are I felt for both those souls One of the most remarkable books I ve ever read co authored by a rape victim ander rapist though both object to those labels and in particular to being defined by themI first Industrial Applications of Biopolymers and Their Environmental Impact heard about this book on the car radio on Woman s Hour with both of them appearing together on it to tell their story I was so gripped that when I gotome I stayed in the car to Retraite sur le Cantique des Cantiques: Commentaires bibliques (Spiritualité) (French Edition) hear it to the endThey met in Iceland when Thordis Elva was 16 and Tom Stranger an Australian was 18 After becoming boyfriend and girlfriende subjected Blood Sorcery (Shadows of Magic, her to a brutal twoour rape when she was insensible with drink He then returned to Australia and both their lives then went off the rails before 9 years later she emailed The Elusive Heiress Nancy Drew him out of the blue and confrontedim with what Pizarro and the Conuest of Peru he d done Instead of denying it or ignoringer as she d expected Are You There God? It's Me M he immediately replied acknowledgingis crime An eight year email exchange followed which culminated in them agreeing to meet Evan (O'Connor Brothers Vol. 5) half way between Iceland and Australia in Cape Town for a week to try and resolve face to face the final issues which theyad been unable to do in writing The book is the story of that weekAs a concept for a book it s mind boggling but the delivery doesn t disappoint either I was completely gripped could ardly put it down and read it in a couple of days It s an emotional rollercoaster and several times I found myself welling up while reading it but it s also astonishingly elouent particularly given that the main author is not a native English speakerWhat I find astonishing is that the book as proven controversial with some people objecting to a rapist being given publicity or a platform to speak in public How these people think that a better understanding of what causes men to rape isn t going to ultimately lead to it being less prevalent is a mystery to me but I guess that some people are interested in simple answers than in real solutionsAn excellent book If you A cristalli liquidi (Italian Edition) have any doubts watch the co authors TED talk on YouTube. Nger to violence and theealing power of forgiveness South of Forgiveness is an unprecedented collaboration between a survivor and a perpetrator each eually committed to exploring the darkest moment of their lives It is a true story about being bent but not broken of facing fear with courage and of finding ope even in the most wounded of plac.
This is a very complicated emotionally charged book that will make you feel incredibly uncomfortable in will make you feel incredibly uncomfortable in lot of different waysIt s a bizarre project I totally understand the idea of wanting to confront this person and
meet and find a way to put it behind you But flying to South Africa a placeand find a way to put it behind you But flying to South Africa a place far from both of you to do it Spending a week doing it But then everyone approaches things in their own way Who are we to decide what fits someone s forgiveness someone else s redemption This book and the authors talks Desperate (Bad Baker Boys, have gotten a lot of controversy But I ll say this I don t agree with any of it First of all no one not rapists not murderers are as bad as the worst thing theyave ever done And every survivor of violence is entitled to find their own way including Thordis If this is what works for Biocentrismo. L'universo, la coscienza. La nuova teoria del tutto her who are we to judge I also strongly agree with everything Thordis says in defense of the project The way the world talks about rape the focus is on the survivors which forgets the why rape exists ie rapists Rape survivors cannot prevent rape Only rapists can prevent rape So it s time we stop treating sexual violence as a women s issue Rapists are predominantly men Why doesn t that make it a men s issue Further blindly condemning for the rest of their life a rapist as nothing or less than a rapist is so futile If we refuse to allow them to come out and admit it and allow them to take responsibility and make amendsow can we as a society ever A Small C Compiler Language Usage Theory and Design hope to change the fact that rapeappens If all men refuse to talk about rape if women are the only ones talking about it then we are left with this Many men don t even understand that they ve raped someone So they need to start talking To own up To put themselves on display the way many victims do To talk to each other about it as women talk about sexual assault among themselves Another thing You go into this book assuming you will sympathize with Thordis and How Drawings Work hate Tom You do both in part but their respective roles as rapist and survivor do not dominate over the fact that they are both people I was surprised to find that on a personal level I liked Tom a lot than I liked Thordis Though to beonest I can t say I liked either of them deeply Tom was occasionally selfish in what Truly Irresistible he wantedis comment that Whisper Loudly heopes the trip will end all communication between them considering Thordis plainly as come to *depend on their emails and as a lot of complicated feelings towards their constant communication and frankly I think she loves *on their emails and Dragon Ball Z Cycle 2 T03 has a lot of complicated feelings towards their constant communication and frankly I think she loves a bit didn t need to be said Then Thordis is just painfully petty at times She 100%as the right to be angry at The Never-Ending Present: The Story of Gord Downie and the Tragically Hip & him for rapinger But the level of unrelated pettiness she gets to at times is just staggering and irritating Also she s deeply judgmental of people in general And sanctimonious And very fond of muttering nasty little comments in er ead On the other The Saga of Tanya the Evil, Vol. 4 (light novel) hand even if I don t personally like them I admire and respect them both Yes even the rapist Everyone is than the worst thing they ve ever done Both Thordis and Tom embarked on this incredible project to confront themselves their own vulnerabilities their dark complicatedistory and come out the other side And try to share their story with other survivors and rapists to open dialogue up And the ending is very rich and satisfying And I definitely Fret Work Step By Step had better feelings toward both of them by the end than I did at the beginningLot of complicated feelings in this book basically Iear Thordis and Tom in a TED radio Mark of the Dragon Urban Dragon hour on Forgiveness and I am currently in training to be a volunteer on my local rape crisis center phoneotline The topic resonated obviously and I thought this might be a good book to pick up I am also thinking alot about restorative justice and Thordis s approach to Tom is uniue in that she is less vindictive than one would expect and open to discussion rather than punishmentThe book does a great job of explaining their complex relationship both at the time of the 1996 attack and during their reunion in 2000 I think it Soigner le Sida autrement avec le protocole ICCARRE highlights a lot of the intricacies faced by survivor and attacker when they share mutual friends and acuaintances and are faced with each other into the future Learning that over 90% of survivors know their attackers the reality ofaving to face each other is very real and the Tubâ va ma'nâ ye shab honesty with which Thordis presentser own rationale and behavior in 20. A woman a man a rape and a ard journey from violence to reconciliationOne ordinary spring morning in Reykjavik Thordis Elva kisses er son and partner goodbye before boarding a plane to do an extraordinary thing fly seven thousand miles south to meet up with the man who raped er when she was just sixteenMeanwhile in Sydney Australia Tom Stran. ,
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00 is illuminating It makes perfect sense that er reaction to How to Prove It (A Structured Approach) him 4 years later could be one in which she attempts to lash out atim and take back some of the control I found myself wondering about whether we should consider Three Religious Rebels The Forefathers of the Trappists her the sexual attacker in some of these later scenes as she useder attractiveness to The Sunset Warrior hurtim Clearly the violence and pain she inflicted on Highland Hucow him was less thane The Impossible Climb: Alex Honnold, El Capitan and the Climbing Life (English Edition) had inflicted oner but the scenes do not exactly glow with mutual consentUltimately though this is a book about finding forgiveness and ability to move forward Thordis and Tom go to great lengths to explore not just the events of that Dien Cai Dau Wesleyan Poetry horrible night in 1996 and the summer of 2000 but the ways in which those events reverberated throughout both of their lives The difference between Thordis s experience ofaving something done to Hope Solo: My Story Young Readers' Edition her and Tom s experience of continually doing something toimself is accentuated several times most poignantly I thought when Thordis expresses uality Control in the Pharmaceutical Industry her frustration withis self pity I clench my jaw in discontent There s a fine line between feeling sorry for Bomb: The Race to Build--and Steal--the World's Most Dangerous Weapon (Newbery Honor Book) having made a mistake and feeling sorry for yourself ofaving made a mistake In my opinion Tom crossed this line a few times in a our correspondence which left me feeling pressured to take pity on Oh Susannah him for being theorrible unworthy failure of a person The Founders of Psychical Research he felte was Not only ave
I Always Found Italways found it and out of place for me to pity Tom but I also believe that if people settle into the idea that they re beyond salvation it inders them from doing constructive things with their livesThordis is an amazing survivor who Chakras & Self-Care: Activate the Healing Power of Chakras with Everyday Rituals has done incredible work in this fielder ability to face The Unforgiven her own demons and be willing toelp Tom face Omgiven av idioter his is remarkable I think it also provides a great blue print for thinking about ways to continue to grow restorative justice programs not when the survivors are unwilling but as a way to move towards greater understanding andealing in societyShe also puts the rape in the context of rape culture and misogynistic value multiple times most clearly Kapitulatus! here But you raped me because I m a girl a girl you felt entitled to Something gave you the idea that your pleasure mattered than my consent even if I was too sick to consent to anything I don t know why Tom But I believe itas something to do with the fact that men The Ivory Gate have power and influence on all levels of society and that sow it s been for centuries Perhaps this archaic tradition Hindsight: All the Things I Can't See in Front of Me has caused people to adapt to the notion that men are simply important that women Perhaps that s why you felt that you and your lust mattered than me that night From what I know you re what most people would call a normal guy which is why I believe this incident to be part of a much bigger picture where womenave less value than men Overall it is a very important book that addresses a topic on which society needs to change Talking about pointing fingers at and understanding the subtle ways in which we socialize boys and girls will Ci alleniamo anche se piove?: Miserie e splendori del calcio dilettantistico help change the rape culture in which we live This bookad a lot of potential It s premise was uite uniue rape perpetrator and survivor engage in years of correspondence over the crime and then meet in person again to try and come to a point of forgivenessUnfortunately the writing style got in the way It veered into purple prose too many times and I Star Wars Thrawn Star Wars Thrawn hate to say it melodrama Iesitate using that word because it seems to belittle the New York Is English, Chattanooga Is Creek. (Richard Jackson Books (Atheneum Hardcover)) horrific experience the survivor went through That s not my intention I just felt that she couldave expressed Guiding Readers and Writers, Grades 3-6: Teaching Comprehension, Genre, and Content Literacy herself in a matter of fact way which wouldave been just as if not powerful And I The Stray Bullet hate to say this but Thordis comes across to me at least as deeply unlikeable The purpose of this book isn t to like either of them I know but as a reader I needed to feel connected with the main author and that just wasn t there Her anger and outrage is there and it s understandable But it seeps out in all sorts of ways My guess iser life experiences Autobiography of Mark Twain, Vol. 3 haveardened How to Fix a Broken Heart (TED Books) her again understandable but a few things irked me Tom s vegetarianism ander lack of understanding or support for it was irritating Firstly doing the typical carnist thing of
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